What I need to learn

So over the past few days I have had a major wake up on my attitude and choices. I was mad at my husband for 2 days for a silly silly reason. So silly I don't even want to share it. I didn't talk to him, didn't want to look at him and made him very sad.

Yesterday I woke up and realised I had been acting like a teenager, maybe not even that grown up. I spent the day focusing on my thoughts and feelings and realised I was stuck in a ME rut. You know one of those ruts where its all about ME. Where everything focuses on how I feel and what I want and that overtakes everything.

I spent alot of time apologising, repenting and asking God to help me change yesterday. I don't want to be a ME person, I want to be a YOU person, I want to care about how you feel, what you need and what my ultimate purpose in life is (surely its not to mope around and be mad about my husband because I wasn't getting what I wanted).

I know I am not perfect and am still going to get swallowed up in the ME sometimes but I am hoping and praying there will be more YOU days than ME days.

Date Night

Yesterday Matt was sick with some kind of tummy thing so Little One and I spent alot of time together, not much different to any other day, but I didn't want it to be like that.

So after nap we went on a date, just my little guy and me. We headed to the park for a little while, then went to the Hallmark shop (I love that place) we didn't buy anything just looked at the different stuffed animals and smelt candles (little one loves doing this) then one of the lovely girls there gave him a balloon.

I decided since it was a date we needed to go eat. So we toddled into IHOP, which is little ones fav place, when I mentioned it he said "pacakes, eggs and bacy mumma. I was so proud of my date, he sat in the booster seat without complaint and waited very patiently with me while we waited for our food to arrive, then he ate like a little gentlemen. I was so proud of him and so happy to be spending time with such a well behaved little guy.

After dinner we went to check on Daddy and Matt was feeling better so we all bundled up and went out to the Christmas Parade.

I couldn't have asked for a nicer afternoon and it really proved to me that even though I am with Little One day in and day out we can still make special times together just him and I.

Its beginning to look alot like Christmas

The Language of Love and Respect - Dr Emmerson Eggerichs

The language of Love and Respect written by Dr Emerson Eggerichs is one of the best marriage books I have read. His concept of woman hearing in Pink (Love) and men hearing in Blue (Respect) hits the mark. This is a book for believers and non believers and I believe it will help every married person understand their partner and gain a deeper and more loving relationship.

Here is a quick description

Book Description

An in-depth study of why your communication styles are not wrong, just different!

Finally an answer for the number one problem in marriages—communication! This analysis of the vital principles of cross-gender communication helps couples recognize they speak two different languages. They are sending each other messages in "code" but won't be able to crack that code until they realize that she listens to hear the language of love and he listens for respect.

Most advice on this subject fails to understand that husbands and wives are wired very differently, and when those wires get crossed, the communication sparks can fly!

MY THOUGHTS

This book has alot going for it, I have already started using steps in my marriage and my husband has been sweetly surprised. One thing I didn't really like about this book is that it is very repetitive at times, I think it could have been shortened. Saying this I would still recommend it to any married person.

This book was provided free from Thomas Nelson Publishers for the purpose of reviewing. The opinions shared are my own.

Its Monday!

Yes its Monday that day after the weekend, you know that one you dread on Sunday Night. For me it is actually a catch up day. Little One heads to Grandma's for a few hours of non mummy fun and I catch up on housework etc. Today though I think I am going to do a few fun things. I cleaned the house last night so I wouldn't have to wake up to a messy house so that is done.

I think I am going to head to Gordmans to look for Christmas stuff, I don't know if I will buy anything but its fun to just go look, especially that I have time to look without having to head to the toy isle. Hmmm then I might go to Goodwill, I haven't been for a month or so but its time to go see what clothes they have in and other things. Then I am going to head to Hobby Lobby I have a Christmas craft idea so I need to go and see if I can actually find the things I need to complete it.

So tell me, how do you spend your Mondays?

Today I am thankful for my mother in law, thankful for the few hours of me time I get during the week due to grandma time. Thanks Niesje!!

Today was one of those days like Groundhog Day

You know those days where your child is so demanding that you want to scream. Yes today was one of those days. We headed out early to look for outdoor Christmas stuff, that was fine except that we couldn't find anything we liked. But then as the day went on Little One started demanding things, not even so much things but just saying the same thing over and over again, and even after we aknowledged him he would keep on.

It was so hard because it wasn't as if he was being naughty just wanting and wanting and not much giving coming back. Little One is usually a pretty happy go lucky child, he is usually happy if you play a little with him but today was very different from a usual day here it really did feel like Groundhog Day.

My house is decorated for Christmas but I should have waited, I didnt enjoy doing it today, it wasn't fun which has spoilt it for me. Maybe it was because I broke my promise not to decorate till after Thanksgiving or maybe it was because of GROUNDHOG day. I hope Friday when we cut down our tree and decorate is a better day and I don't end up like this.